Trusted matchmaking and dating service in Dallas, Dallas and Fort Worth Singles, reveals the truth about crossing the lines with a new love interest.
So you really like a man, but is your affection becoming something like a crazy obsession? Read the following signs from our Dallas matchmakers here at Dallas and Fort Worth Singles Dating Service and ask yourself if you have now become a dating stalker.
When a woman likes a man, she may go a bit overboard with her affection, and sometimes it’s done without even realizing it. When a woman becomes too clingy and needy, it can quickly scare the man away. Of course this behavior is never acceptable for a healthy relationship; after all, the last thing you want your new man to think is that you have gone over the line and become a dating stalker.
Sure, you’re not singing him a love song outside of his bedroom window, but you might not realize there are subtle things you could be doing that are giving him the impression you’re too much to handle. No man wants to deal with a desperate, needy, or possessive woman, so make sure that’s not how you’re coming off to the new man in your life.
Signs You’ve Crossed the Line & Are Scaring Your Man Away
Our Dallas matchmakers have compiled a list of the top things you might be doing that could lead him to believe that you’re becoming a little too obsessed, a little bit stalkerish.
1. Commenting & Liking Everything on Facebook
While it’s completely acceptable to portray your love and affection to your partner on Facebook, it is not acceptable to comment and like on every single status, photo, and link he puts on his page. For a man, this is one of the clearest indications that you have crossed the line and become a stalker, a creep if you will. The thing here is that you need to let him know that you have better things to do besides monitoring his every Facebook activity and posting on his things all day long. Our Dallas matchmakers know this could also make him think you’re putting the signal out there to other women that he is off limits.
2. Showing Up to Places He’s Checked Into When You Weren’t Invited
Thanks to social networks like Facebook and Twitter, it is easy to post places you’ll be going out, whether it’s the gym, your favorite coffee shop, or your favorite happy hour spot. People generally don’t announce where they’re going thinking their girlfriends will show up unexpectedly, so your current man will start getting suspicious if every time he checks in somewhere you suddenly appear. It’s not acceptable to go to the places your man has checked in unless he has invited you personally to go.
3. Going by His Workplace, House, or School
You might need to walk or drive by one of these places if it’s on the way to your house or work, but you do not need to go there more often than you need to. If you don’t see him, you will have wasted your precious time and will not accomplish anything. On the other hand, if he sees you driving around his house or circling around the block a few times, he’ll find it very sketchy, even disturbing.
4. Texting Him 24/7
If this is someone you just recently met at the grocery store or your favorite local pub, perhaps you were lucky enough to have gotten his number, but if so, don’t make that horrible mistake of texting him all the time. If you are constantly sending him good morning or sweet dreams messages, you’re going to send him the wrong impression, the impression that you are too much, too soon. Sending constant text messages during the early stages will make him think you are too clingy, and possibly becoming a stalker. You might be curious about his activities but that doesn’t give you the right to bombard him with text messages. Your “What are you eating for dinner” messages need to stop today if you don’t want to scare this man away.
5. Being a Regular at his Workplace
If the man you are starting to see tells you he works at a local bank, hotel, or a local bar, the last thing you want to do is become a regular there. If you have never gone to his place of business before but are quickly becoming a regular, you are becoming a clingy girlfriend. Our Dallas matchmakers encourage you to show him you’re independent and have your own life.
6. Getting Information about Him through Friends
Along the same lines, if you are already good friends with common people, don’t use them to try to get information. Don’t ask mutual friends where he will be on the weekends, where his office is, or why his last relationship did not work out. If you are not close enough to ask him yourself, then you don’t have the right to get the answers behind his back. Plus, if you find out everything about him behind his back, you won’t have much to talk about with him when you see him.
7. Making His Interests Your Own
When you’re looking to date a man, the last thing you want to do is make all his interests your own, especially if you don’t even care for them. Most men will get creeped out if they meet you at a coffee shop and then you unexpectedly show up to golf tournament or a wine tasting event they were supposed to be at the following week. Moreover, if a man finds out you are not really interested in his hobbies, but are acting as though you are, he will think you are manipulative and desperate to be in a relationship.
8. Buying Him Unnecessary Gifts
Unless you are already in a serious relationship with him and are celebrating his birthday together you should not be buying him gifts all the time. Giving him gifts will make him think things between the two of you are awkward and that little caution light in his brain will come on.
9. Asking Him to Hang Out After He Turned You Down
Sometimes when women are interested in a man they seem to have a hard time processing the word no. If a man tells you he is busy and can’t hang out, but you keep asking him and ignoring him when he tells you no, you are crossing the line over to stalkerish. Unless you want a man to label you as desperate and completely ignore you altogether, you need to give him his own space. Learn to accept the fact that he has other things to do. Again, the best advice our Dallas matchmakers can give you is to go about your own life, show him you have your own friends, interests, and activities.
As much as you like a man and you want to stay close to him, you need to keep in mind that no man likes to be smothered by a woman. If you keep doing the things above, you’re eventually going to push him away for good.
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